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A WHITE CANDLE LOVE SPELL TO ATTRACT NEW LOVE
Here is a white candle love spell i was taught by a friend, Miriam Singer,
who had it from another woman many years ago. It was given to me as a
“woman’s spell,” possibly because of the phallic shape of the candle, but i
see no reason a man could not perform it — and in fact, since i first posted
it on the web in 1994, i have heard from a number of men who have used it with
success and satisfaction.
Get a white candle that will burn down in due time. You will have to inscribe
it (see below), so it should be bigger than a birthday candle, and you will
also have to watch it burn down to nothing (see below), so it should not be a
24 hour votive light. A plain white 4″ altar candle or, better yet, a white
“bride and groom” figural candle, will be right.
Prepare an altar and decorate it with those things precious to you and to the
one you love. Using a rose thorn from a white rose bush, inscribe the words
“All my love come to me” 3 times on the candle. Place the inscribed candle in
the center of the altar and light it. For the entire time the candle burns,
gaze upon it and visualize your love coming to you in nakedness and beauty.
When the candle burns out, collect the wax puddle that remains, wrap it up
with the mementos from the altar and keep it in a safe place.
The result of this spell will not be “zombie” or “victim” thrall-love; but
you will receive ALL the love that person has for you — which may be less
than, as much as, or more than the love you have for him. Accept the degree
of love you receive with grace and tenderness.
If at some future time you no longer wish to receive that person’s love,
dispose of the ritual remains
in a simple ceremonial way. Depending on your mood, the wax puddle can be
burned on a fire, buried at a crossroads, thrown into running water, mailed to him, ground
to shavings and baked into a cake — or whatever you feel is appropriate. But
it is your responsibility to dispose of it if you no longer want to be loved
in any degree by that person.
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A LODESTONE AND RED CANDLE LOVE SPELL TO ATTRACT NEW LOVE
This is a hoodoo conjuration, and it is a little more
forceful than the white candle love
spell given above. It takes seven days to complete. To perform the work, you will need a
pair of large lodestones (male
and female if you are heterosexual; both male or both female if
you are homosexual), a packet of magnetic sand, a
tray or plate (not made of steel or iron), anointing oil, small personal
items or paper and ink, and a red candle. A plain offertory candle will do,
but the red “lovers” figural candle shown here or the red “Bride and Groom” Figural Candle shown at
the top of this page are particularly appropriate for drawing a partner of the opposite sex.
Before you begin lodestone love spells, determine which ends of the lodestones draw to each other most
strongly. Place the lodestones on the tray, some
distance apart, with the attracting ends facing each other.
Behind them and between them, forming a triangle, set up
Next, name the lodestones: one for you and one
for the person you wish to attract. If you can get anything of
the person’s (a photo, a lock of hair, nail parings), place it
beneath the person’s lodestone.
Place something similar of yours beneath your lodestone. If you cannot get such
items, write the person’s name three times in red ink on one
piece of white parchment and your name three times in red ink on
another piece of white parchment and place those beneath the
respective lodestones. If you
are already having sexual relations with the person you wish to have love you,
simply personalize the lodestones by anointing them with
sexual fluids: semen for a “he” stone and vaginal
fluids or menstrual blood for a “she” stone.
On the first day, dress
the candle with a love-drawing oil, such as Come to Me, Love Me, Follow Me Boy, or Lavender Love Drops. Sprinkle a little of the oil on each
lodestone as well. Light the
candle and feed the lodestones
with one-seventh of the magnetic
sand. Concentrate on your desires. You may also read
aloud the Song of Solomon, which is in the Bible. Let the
candle burn one-seventh of the way down and snuff it.
The next day, move the lodestones a little closer to each
other. Again light the candle and feed the lodestones with one-seventh of the
magnetic sand. Concentrate on your desires and read
Song of Solomon. Let the candle burn one-seventh of the way down
and snuff it.
Continue in this way for seven days until the candle is finished
and the lodestones are touching
and are well covered with magnetic sand.
When the ritual is done, place the lodestones, still on their tray,
in a safe place where they can continue to draw to each other.
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A 3-CANDLE LOVE SPELL TO ATTRACT LOVE, ROMANCE, AND PASSION
Preparation: This is a 9-day love spell that uses three candles
— white, pink, and red — to successively attract someone,
then induce romantic feelings in them, and finally engender
passion. Here’s what you will need:
1 White “Bride and Groom” candle or other white figural couple candle
1 Pink “Bride and Groom” candle or other pink figural couple candle
1 Red “Bride and Groom” candle or other red figural couple candle
a nail or needle to carve the candles
a saucer for the candles
a basin for water
three pieces of paper
a black ink pen
a red ink pen.
1 bottle herb-based Love-Drawing Dressing Oil such as
Love Me (general purpose lover’s oil)
Follow Me Boy (used especially for female domination)
Come To Me (to draw someone closer)
Kiss Me Now! (for sex without partnership commitment)
Attraction (general attraction for love, money, friendship)
Look Me Over (used to draw sexual attention to oneself)
Lavender Love Drops (for gay or lesbian relationships)
You can also use three different oils (one for each candle) or make up a mixture from any or all of the oils.
Doing the Job: Before dawn on the first day, bathe in pure water to which you have added three drops of one or more of the oils named above. Pour the water over your head 9 times as you say, “Spirit of Love, i do this work for love and love only, that i may be loved by [name] as i myself love [him or her]. Amen.” Rub upward only as you bathe and dry yourself in the air only. Collect a basin of the used bath water, which now has your essence in it. Dress in fresh clothes, carry the basin of bath-water to a crossroads and throw the water over your left shoulder toward the sunrise. Walk back home and don’t look back. You are now ready to start the work.
On the 1st day, start at Sun-up. Take the first paper and write on it your full name and the one you love’s full name in pencil, all in one stroke, without lifting the pencil from the paper, so that the two names form a circle and the end is joined to the beginning. Carve the full name of the person you love on the gender-appropriate side of the White Candle. Carve your full name on the other side and dress the candle with the love oil. Next, name the two sides of the candle, saying, “Spirit of Love, i name this woman [or man] [your full name] and this man [or woman] [name of lover]. As is done to this candle, may it be done to our thoughts.” Place the name-paper under the candle, then dress the candle with your saliva, saying, “[Name of lover], love me as i love you. Desire me as i desire you. Come to me as i come to you. By my loving speech and tongue, be mine as i am yours.” Light both wicks of the candle as you say this prayer: “Spirit of Pure Love, i burn this candle in pure love’s name that i may be loved by [name] as i myself love [him or her] and that [name] will burn for my love as i burn for [his or hers]. Let our thoughts be one. Amen.” Let the candle burn about 1/3 of the way, then pinch it out.
On the 2nd day, again burn the white candle at Dawn, and say the “Pure Love” candle-lighting prayer. Burn it until it is about 2/3 gone.
On the 3rd day, again light it at Dawn, say the “Pure Love” candle lighting prayer, and let it burn until it goes out, even all the way to burning the paper with your names on it.
On the 4th day, start at Noon. Write both of your names on the 2nd paper as before, but this time use black ink. Carve and dress the Pink Candle as before and name the two sides as before, saying: “Spirit of Love, i name this woman [or man] [your full name] and this man [or woman] [name of lover]. As is done to this candle, may it be done to our hearts.” Then place the candle against your bare body, between your breasts if you are a woman, or at heart-level if you are a man, saying, “[Name of lover], love me as i love you. Desire me as i desire you. Come to me as i come to you. By the link between my heart and yours, be mine as i am yours.” Light both wicks of the candle as you say this prayer: “Spirit of Romantic Love, i burn this candle in romantic love’s name that i may be loved by [name] as i myself love [him or her] and that [name] will burn for my love as i burn for [his or hers]. Let our hearts be one. Amen.” Let the candle burn about 1/3 of the way, then pinch it out.
On the 5th day, again burn the pink candle at Noon, and say the “Romantic Love” candle-lighting prayer. Burn it until it is about 2/3 gone.
On the 6th day, again light it at Noon, say the “Romantic Love” candle-lighting prayer, and let it burn until it goes out, even all the way to burning the paper with your names on it.
On the 7th day, start at Sun-down. Write both of your names on the 3rd paper as before, but this time use red ink. Dress the Red Candle. with oil as before and name the two sides, saying: “Spirit of Love, i name this woman [or man] [your full name] and this man [or woman] [name of lover]. As is done to this candle, may it be done to our bodies.” Then, if you are a woman, dress the candle with menstrual blood or sexual fluid; if a man, dress it with semen, saying, “[Name of lover], love me as i love you. Desire me as i desire you. Come to me as i come to you. By the nectar of my body, be mine as i am yours.” Light both wicks of the candle as you say this prayer: “Spirit of Passionate Love, i burn this candle in passionate love’s name that i may be loved by [name] as i myself love [him or her] and that [name] will burn for my love as i burn for [his or hers]. Let our bodies be one. Amen.”
On the 8th day, again burn the red candle at Sunset, and say the “Passionate Love” candle-lighting prayer. Burn it until it is about 2/3 gone.
On the 9th day, again light it at Sunset, say the “Passionate Love” candle-lighting prayer, and let it burn until it goes out, even all the way to burning the paper with your names on it. As the red candle burns to the end, again bathe in pure water to which you have added 3 drops of one or more of the oils named above. Pour the water over your head 9 times as you say, “Spirit of Love, i have done this work for love and love only, that i may be loved by [name] as i myself love [him or her]. My love is mine! Amen!” Set aside a basin of the bath-water.
The next morning, sprinkle some of the bath water at your loved one’s door step to mark it and then sprinkle as you walk to your door and mark it also. When you go to see the one you love, wear one of the love oils. If you write to him, dress the letter with love oil.
Cleaning Up: Wrap up any left-over candle wax in a red cloth. Secure it with red thread, tie it, and bury it in your back yard.
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DRESSED LETTER LOVE SPELLS TO ATTRACT LOVE FROM AFAR
First, let me start by saying that in my experience it is
easier and more often successful to attract an UNKNOWN lover
or mate than it is to get a long-lost lover to return from
an unknown place, to turn a casual acquaintance into a lover
by long distance, or to attract the attention of a specific
far-away person with whom one has no personal link at all.
Ask yourself, is your request realistic? (You might be
surprised how often people request love spells to sexually
attract a celebrity — someone they may have only seen once
at an autograph session!) Specifically, ask yourself, if you
do manage to reach this person through preturnatural means,
will he or she know how to contact you in return? Does the
person you desire have your telephone number, email address,
or street address? Do you have friends in common who could
pass a message?
If not, all you may be doing by working attraction love spells
from afar is inflicting a “dream love” on the object of your
affections. He or she may dream or day-dream about you but,
not be able to contact you. Possibly, not even
knowing your name or if you are real person or a figment of
the imagination, he or she will chalk the whole attraction experience
up to “strange ideas” and the two of you will never meet in person. I
personally have had numerous “love-dreams” in which i met
and made love with total strangers. Were they men who had
read my books or web pages and were trying to contact me from afar?
I’ll never know! They seemed to be “real people,” but i
never have met them in the flesh.
The same goes for people i used to know — i have dreamed
quite wonderfully of men i liked years ago in school,
renewing our friendships, even becoming lovers in these
dreams — but i have no idea where they live now, or how to
contact them. If they were working love spells on me, they left
out an important factor: i got the “message,” but i could
not figure out a way to get in touch with them in return.
Okay, so let us assume that you DO know where the person you
desire lives, that he or she knows where you live, that the
two of you have some sort of established form of prior
communication, and that he or she actually opens and touches
his or her personal mail. In that case,
it is indeed possible to work love spells to attract and draw him or her closer from
afar. Use one of the love spells described above, such as the lodestone and candle love spell
or the 3-candle love spell
and augment its strength by following it immediately with
this love spell, in which you send the person a dressed letter.
Assemble the following items:
a love-drawing herbal or mineral bath formula
(e.g. Love Herbs, Follow Me Boy Bath Crystals, Come
To Me Bath Crystals, Attraction Bath Crystals, Love
Me Bath Crystals, etc.)
a love drawing candle
(e.g. a Bolivian couple candle, lovers candle,
genitalia candle, or whatever you choose)
a love-drawing dressing oil for the candle
(e.g. Follow Me Boy Oil, Come To Me Oil,
Attraction Oil, Love Me Oil, Fast Luck Oil, etc.
a love-drawing incense
(e.g. Love Herbs to burn on charcoal, Follow Me
Boy Incense, Come To Me Incense, Attraction
Incense, Love Me Incense, etc.
a pen, a piece of stationery, a matching envelope,
and a stamp
a small basin to contain some of your used bath-water
Like most love spells, this one is best worked in the early morning before dawn, because it
finishes at sunrise. Those who take the moon’s position into account may
wish to perform it as the moon is waxing or growing in size, because it
is a spell for increase. Some women may prefer to perform it on the
first day of their menstrual cycle, regardless of the moon’s position.
Those who work by the days of the week may prefer to perform it on a
Friday, as that is the day sacred to Venus, the goddess of love. The
choice is yours.
Prepare the bath according to its directions or your common sense. Dress
the candle, light it, and light the incense. With no other light than
that from your love-candle, bathe in the love-drawing bath and save some
of the bath-water containing your personal essence in the basin. Place
the basin next to the candle.
While still naked from your bath, and still with no other light than
that from your oil-dressed love-candle, write the person you desire a
sincere letter. Sprinkle the paper with a love-drawing sachet powder,
then draw your fingernails down the paper in wavy “snake lines” to mark
it. Shake the paper to let the powder fall away and set it aside.
Address the envelope, dress it with sachet, mark it with “snake lines,
shake it clean, and set it aside too.
Next, formulate your specific desire, by which i mean get it very clear
in your mind exactly what you want — for instance, that the person
contacts you, falls in love with you, visits you, has sex with you,
marries you, raises a family with you, and/or spends his or her life
with you. Once you have formulated your specific desire, focus the
entirety of your WILL upon achieving the result you wish to accomplish.
Then arouse yourself sexually by thinking of the person you want, and at
the moment of orgasm, silently voice your COMMAND that the person must
come to you and fulfill the conditions that you have willed.
Immediately after, physically relax into a receptive posture and ACCEPT
that as you asked, so shall it be done.
After the moment of reverie and acceptance, touch each of the four
corners of the letter with a bit of your sexual fluids. Place the letter
in the envelope and touch each of the four corners of the envelope with
your sexual fluids. Seal the envelope with a streak of your bath water
and use the bath-water to affix the stamp as well.
At dawn, dress in clean clothes. Carry the remaining bath water to a
crossroads, throw it over your left shoulder toward the rising sun, and
walk back home without looking back. Mail the letter at once — if you
can mail it on your way home from the crossroads, so much the better.
In case you are curious about this love spell, the
letter-dressing itself is based in hoodoo, but the three-part
sequence of deploying one’s will, command, and acceptance
during a cycle of sexual arousal is a method of working
taught by the 19th century African-American sex-magician
Beverly Randolph, under the names “volantia,”
“decretism,” and “posism”. Volantia was Randolph’s
term for using volition or will to silently focus one’s
full consciousness upon a desired result; by decretism he meant making a decree or
command at the moment of orgasm; and posism he described as relaxing
into a receptive physical posture or pose after orgasm and
gratefully accepting that what you have willed and decreed has
come to pass.
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“LOVE ME OR DIE”: A JACK BALL TO GOOFER A MAN FOR LOVE
This is a conjure hand for coercive love that was related to me by a
50-55 year old woman customer in a candle store on Maxwell Street in
Chicago in 1965:
She said, “If you want a man to love you and he absolutely refuses, you
can goofer him to love you — you know, make him *sick* to love you.” Here
is her recipe.
You will need:
a small John the Conqueror root
Goofer Dust (or Graveyard Dirt)
Love Me sachet powder
a piece of brown paper (torn on all four sides from a paper bag)
a waterproof ink pen that writes red
a waterproof ink pen that writes black
a brand new spool of red sewing thread
a red flannel bag
a sharp pen knife
On the paper, write his full name 7 times in black ink, then rotate the
paper and write LOVE ME OR DIE over his name 7 times in red ink,
crossing it and covering it. Set the paper aside.
Use the pen knife to carve a slit-shaped hole in the root and wedge your
hair and his hair in there together. Then pack the slit tight with a
mixture of Goofer Dust and Love Me sachet powder. Thoroughly wet the written-on
paper with your urine and wrap it around the root, pressing and forming
it as you would papier mache, to keep the hairs and powders inside.
While it is still wet, wrap it up in the red thread, going round and
around very neatly, like a ball of twine, until the paper is entirely
covered. When you are done, tie the thread off with seven knots and leave
a length of thread to hang it from. You can double or triple the hanging-thread
for strength, and finish it with a loop for your finger.
Carry the prepared root in a red flannel bag and moisten it with your
urine when needed. Hold it by its hanging-thread to “operate” it, swinging it back and
forth or round and around toward you as you call the man’s name, to draw him to you.
Get a rhythm going, and say his name, like this, over and over:
“[First Name, Last Name], love me or die; [First Name, Last
Name], love me or die; [First Name, Last Name], love me or
“You do this,” the woman told me, “and the man will either love you
or he’ll get real sick. If he gets sick, don’t let up; just keep your
urine wet on that thing, just keep working with it. That’s the way you
get him, you weaken him. When he is about finished, you can nurse him
back to health. Then he’s all yours.”
I have never tried such coercive love spells myself. I am too tender-hearted
and also have had too many offers of love from willing men to bother to
mess with men who were recalcitrant. I recommend that anyone who
undertakes making such a “Love Me or Die” hand should be prepared to
properly dispose of it if it is successful, or you may always have a sickly man on your
The making of this love spell is an exercise in working with pairs of opposites: The Love powder is
mixed with Goofer Dust. The John root is male (looks like a testicle)
and you cut a slit-like hole (a symbolic “pussy”) in it to make him less
strong and masculine, what they call “pussy whipped”. You mix your hair
and his hair up together, so he will be as obsessed as you are. You
offer him the choice “Love me or die.” When he gets sick, you nurse him back to health. The whole thing is about mixing
opposing pairs — male/female, love/death, sickness/health, him/you — into one mess.
By the way, the specific shape of this mojo hand — a round object wound around
with thread or string — is sometimes referred to as a Jack or Jack
ball, although my informant did not call it by that name. Most Jacks,
hung from their strings, are used for divination, like pendulums, but
some are carried in the pocket or in a bag, as a hand.
The name Jack ball probably originally referred to the
little rubber balls used for playing the children’s game of
Jacks, which used to be made of wound-up red rubber strings.
Not all Jacks have a John
the Conqueror root at their center, but since Jack
is the diminutive form of John, if any Jack has a right to
that name, this one does.
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GRAVEYARD DIRT LOVE SPELLS FOR ATTRACTION
In 1998, Dana (email@example.com) posted this love spell to usenet:
You need green paper, vandal root, and
dirt from a graveyard.
You write your name and the guy’s name on the paper, put the
vandal root and graveyard dirt
in the center of the paper,
wrap it up and leave it under your bed.
I got this spell from a spell book published by Baron Blanc
in Sydney, Australia. Please understand that (in
the book’s words) “it is one of the most powerful love
spells and should be undertaken only after other love spells
have failed. Not for the faint hearted.”
Miss Dana’s post provoked long
discussions in usenet concerning why someone would use
in a love spell, so i’d like to add some
I myself have never used Graveyard Dirt love spells, but i can tell you that
they do have quite a bit of historical basis behind they and
there are people who say that such love spells have worked for them.
The trouble is, the spell as related in Miss Dana’s book just
calls for any old Graveyard Dirt, and the way i was taught,
that is not quite right.
The man who gave me my version of the Graveyard Dirt Love Spell
— and he was no “Baron”
from Australia, but an African-American candle store owner
in Oakland, California, back in the 1960s — said to use the
dirt from the grave of someone who had loved you in life. He
said, “Your grandmother, mother, father; your lover, husband,
or wife who passed on before you — you get dirt from THEIR
grave only, and not from anywhere on the grave either, but
from over the HEART.”
When i told him that all my relatives who had died were
buried far away and i could not get to their graves, he
said, “Everybody has had at least ONE person to love them,
even if it was just a little yellow spotted dog.” I told him
i had once had a cat who loved me and that i knew where she
was buried. “Then you can use the dirt from her grave,” he
said. I never did it, though.
The idea behind Graveyard Dirt Love Spells is that the dead one who loved
you will work on the live one who does not love you yet, and
will set their mind to thinking of you. That’s why you want
the dirt from over the heart of one who loved you — you
want their spirit on your side, working on the mind of the
one you love.
The vandal root called for in one version of this love spell is a root with alleged powers
to aid in establishing contact with the dead and it is said
to create spiritual contacts with the other world. This
reinforces the idea that the
Graveyard Dirt should be from
a grave that holds meaning for you, not just any old grave.
In the 1930s, Harry M. Hyatt collected information about
hoodoo from 1,600 African-American informants, and one of
them gave him a variation of the
Graveyard Dirt Love Spells.
It is simpler than Baron Blanc’s version, in that it does
not include the Vandal Root, but it is also much more direct
because rather than hide the materials under your bed, as
Baron Blanc suggests, you sprinkle the
Graveyard Dirt on
yourself when you go to be near the one whom you wish to
attract. This is the way i was told to do it, too.
You can find the 1930s version of the spell collected by
Harry M. Hyatt —
in the informant’s own words — on my web page
about Goofer Dust. It is spell #659, but
i suggest that you read the entire page first; don’t just
skip to that part.
Incidentally, the person who gave this love spell to Hyatt noted
that it only works as long as you keep using the Graveyard
Dirt. In other words, it only works while the spirit of the
dead person is helping you.
A more coercive love spell using
or Graveyard Dirt to
force a person to love you is called “Love Me or Die” —
and it does not specify that the dirt must come from the grave of a loved one.
I believe that the origin of
these love spells lies in African religious beliefs about the dead,
especially those that came from the Congo, where contact
with the spirits of the dead is strongly emphasized and
their help is sought on behalf of the living.
So, you see, these are very unusual love spells. They are for a
certain kind of love, and they are not magic spells that everyone
could or should use, but they do have a long and legitimate
history in African-American folk-magic.
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LODESTONE CHARMS AND LOVE SPELLS TO MAINTAIN FAITHFUL LOVE
One of my favourite fidelity talismans comes from the Quechua people of Bolivia and Peru
— this is the munaiwarmi (woman’s
love) stone, around which hair from each of the lovers is tied to maintain faithfulness over long distances.
Another fidelity talisman, from a different culture, is a form of
African-American mojo bag. This will
ensure continued sexual attraction during absences; it can be
made by one person, but i like the idea of making its creation a
ritual for two partners as described below:
need a pair of lodestones (male
and female if you are heterosexual; both male or both female if
you are homosexual), a packet of magnetic sand, anointing oil,
and two red flannel mojo bags.
Select two small lodestones
that make a good “pair” — when positioned head to tail they
should attract strongly and share a snug surface in common. Place
them together, feed them with magnetic sand to give them a
“hairy” coating, and anoint them with any of the various
hoodoo oils that relate to faithful love (like “Love Me”
oil). For extra power, you can also anoint them with your
conjoined semen and menstrual blood. Say a prayer for the
continuation of your love over long distances. Gently separate
the lodestones, keeping as much
magnetic sand on them as
possible, and place one in each bag. Tie the bags shut and each
keep one while you are apart. They will draw you back together again.
When the two of you are reunited, complete the love spell ritual by taking
the lodestones out and
reuniting them, head to tail. Dress them with anointing oil and
with your bodily fluids if desired, then feed them with more magnetic sand. Thereafter you
may keep the lodestones in a
bowl on your altar or you may bury them together in the Earth.
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6 LOVE SPELLS AND CHARMS TO CELEBRATE MARITAL COMMITMENT
1) Chinese Sexual Alchemy
First, i humbly recommend a perusal of the karezza and Sacred Sex site that i
have written, with particular reference to the page titled
which contains some interesting ideas from Mediaeval Chinese
Sexual Alchemy for how to maintain a spiritually committed
2) Candle Magic
As far as traditional hoodoo
herb-, oil-, and candle-magic for cementing a
committed passionate relationship goes, i can suggest the
following, from personal (satisfied) experience:
Burn Bride-and-Groom candles dressed with Stay With Me Oil or Love Me
Oil; if passion is the paramount goal, burn a Lovers’ candle dressed
with the same oils.
3) Inscribed Amulets
Consider making inscribed and sigilized amulets for one another. My
husband and i did this a year before our marriage. We used empty amulet
tubes (metal hollow pendants) from Afghanistan. We each wrote out our
promise and wish for the other on a small piece of paper, dated it, and
sigilized it with our sexual fluids, then inserted the paper into an
amulet tube and exchanged tubes so that each kept the other’s vow and
wish. The containers need not be amulet tubes or pendants, of course;
you could use a tiny “wish box” or any sort of container, including a
pair of small sea shells.
4) Dressed Lodestones
Another thing we did was to perform the a lodestone fidelity charm
love spell given above, feeding a pair of
matched lodestones with magnetic sand and
sigilizing them with our sexual fluids and hair and
name-papers in the hoodoo
tradition. The only difference between that love spell as given and what
we did was that we performed the spell as a couple. We keep our dressed lodestones together in a
covered candy dish on an altar (“the Bird Altar” — so
called because it contains a lot of images of birds,
including Hummingbirds) in our bedroom, at the northern
wall. We renew the spell by performing it once a year, at the Winter Solstice. For the
significance of the northern wall in “bedroom” workings, see
the page on Chinese Sexual
Alchemy mentioned above.
5) The Hummingbird Incantation
The Hummingbird is the creator god of the Pomo Indians, the
tribe that first occupied the region where i live in
California. Yearly Hummingbird dances are held a few miles
from my home. The Hummingbird parts are danced by teenaged
boys with flutes, the flower parts are danced by teenaged
girls. The form of the dance is a line dance by the girls,
and the boys circle them and approach them each in turn, as
Hummingbirds approach flowers. This indigenous veneration
of the Hummingbird as a deity with sexual and love harbinger
overtones extends all down the Pacific coast and into what
is now Mexico, where it can be found in the form of
reverence for La Chuparosa (the Rose-Sucker in Spanish). In
Mayan Mexican folk magic, the Hummingbird is also the symbol
of — and again, actually the ancient deity of — love, sex,
Here is a contemporary incantatory love
spell taken from a Mexican votive candle that, beneath its
veil of Catholic formality, literally calls upon the
indigenous Divine Hummingbird for a blessing on love. I
shall give it both in Spanish and in English translation;
note that the word “chupa” can be translated as “suck out”
or “extract” and is used as a reference to the bird’s name
(Chuparosa) and as a magical instruction to the bird.
Al Poder de la Chuparosa
The Power of the Hummingbird
tu que por el Poder divino
endulzas y alegras las cosas
quiero que endulces
mi vida y alegres mi corazon
ya que por tu divina intercession
he de venecar a mi amado(a)
y solo sea para mi
who enriches and glorifies
everything with your Holy Power,
I ask that you enrich my life and love
with your Divine Intercession
so that my lover
will want only me
y asi como chupas la miel de las flores,
chupa la sal y mala suerte que tengo,
y asi en todo vencer,
in the same way that you extract honey from flowers,
extract all misfortune and bad luck
from my life;
novenario te he de hacer,
para que tu no me divides y me traigas
al ser amado fiel y lleno de amor.
i pray you will not forget me,
so that my lover and i may share a relationship
that is honest and true
6) Quechua and Aymara Charms
Finally, either the Munachi
charm or Munaiwarmi
charm made by the Aymara and Quechua Indians of Peru
and Bolivia may be just the ticket for those working
eclectic love spells. These are small amulets
carved of soapstone or cast in terra cotta. They are
activated by tying the hairs of the lovers into the amulet
and by sigilizing with sexual fluids.
The Munachi charm is for
heightened sexual passion and depicts a copulating couple.
We keep one on the small sex-altar at the head of our bed.
The Munaiwarmi charm is for
fidelity and depicts a clothed couple embracing as they
stand side by side.
Pictures of both of these charms with full instructions —
plus similar information about the related Illas charm for the sexual
well-being of farm animals — can be found on their
respective Lucky W Amulet Archive web pages. We keep a
cross-cultural form of the Illas
charm on our sex-altar; it is a Japanese
netsuke carved from a tagua-nut depicting two little mice
curled up together. It serves to remind us of the
oxytocin-fueled pair-bonding enjoyed by sexually excited
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HOODOOING A MAN’S (or Woman’s) NATURE
Coercive love spells of sexual fidelity are mentioned often in
the African-American conjure tradition — so often that
there is a name for the entire class of such love spells. They
are called “hoodooing a man’s [or woman’s] nature.” They
come in two types:
1) Hoodooing a partner’s sexual nature so that he or she is
sexually faithful — the effect is to render the victim
uninterested sexually in others or, if interested, unable to
complete the sex act (e.g. due to erectile dysfunction,
anorgasmia, etc.). Typical love spells of this sort are the
“nation sack” and a knot spell called “tying his [or her]
nature.” A regionally famous magic spell from Texas that
accomplishes this work is called “The Blue Penis Spell” and
it utilizes a blue figural candle in the form of male
genitalia. (A “Blue Vulva” spell using a similar candle
shaped like female genitalia is also possible, but far less
common in actual practice.) If the couple breaks up and the
spouse does not dispose of the nation sack or knotted
string, or take off the “Blue Penis” spell, the person whose
nature was hoodood will thenceforward be unable to have a
normal sex life with a new partner due to the old spell in
which his or her sexuality was controlled by the ex-partner.
Coercive love spells like these can be taken off, however, and there are numerous
ways to do so.
2) Hoodooing an ex-partner’s or enemy’s nature so that he or
she will be sexually impotent or never be loved again —
these are spells of revenge or hostility, in other words, a
jinx, crossing, or goofering spell. The symptoms may appear
similar to the former type, but a sexual revenge spell is
easier to take off, according to accounts by root workers.
The usual counter-spell is a regular jinx-removal or
In category (1) above, there are several names and working
variations. These coercive love spells have been collected in oral tradition
in dozens of forms from all over the South. The purpose of
them is to prevent a man from having an erection or an orgasm
with another woman. They are most often called “hoodooing a
man’s nature” (“nature” is a euphemism for “virility”).
Other names for these love spells are “measuring the man,” “tying
up his nature,” and, in one form, “The Blue Penis spell” (so
called after a blue candle burned in that version of the
Here, in rough outline, is how it works:
Before going to bed with the man, the woman gets herself a
length of ordinary soft white cotton string and hides it in
the bedclothes. While the man is hard, she takes the measure
of his penis with the string or with her finger, which
measurement she transfers to the string. After they have
sex, she smears some of his ejaculate on the string. (This can
be done in the bed or in the bathroom.) If possible, she
should not have an orgasm during the love-making that leads
to this spell, because she might lose herself in pleasure
and get careless, and risk being “tied” herself. She also
steals a few of the man’s pubic hairs or underarm hairs, or,
failing that, his head hairs. (Alternatively, she should
also get some ejaculate on a clean white handkerchief cloth.
She should be very careful to get none of her own vaginal
juices on the cloth.)
When the man falls a asleep after sex, she takes the string
and ties nine knots in it (some say seven knots). The knots
are made starting from the center and working outward,
alternating left and right sides until the ends are reached.
Each knot must be activated as follows:
She forms the knot but does not pull it tight. When it is
ready, she calls the man’s name and at the moment that he
answers, be it with a word or a sound, she pulls the knot
tight. She must then make an excuse to him, explaining why
she called him. It is the difficulty of making these
excuses, i believe, that has led many women to recommend
making the nine (or seven) knots on separate occasions,
tying one knot each time with fresh semen.
Once the string is fully knotted, some women wrap it up with
the man’s hairs in the semen-wetted cloth, making a packet.
With or without the cloth and the hairs, the woman keeps
the knot spell on her. She may put it in a red flannel mojo bag and wear the bag
always, under her skirt or pinned to her panties, anywhere
beneath her waist. She may piece the knotted string out with
another piece of string and wear it tied around her waist.
She may even thread it into a self-covered fabric belt and
wear it thus amongst her clothing.
When she is not wearing it, she must keep
it in a locked box or trunk. The man must not see it or
touch it. From then on he will be hoodood and will not be
able to get hard with any other woman but her, and the only
way for him to get this condition off is to undertake a
lengthy uncrossing spell — or to steal back the knotted
string and untie the knots himself.
The Blue Penis Candle Spell uses a candle as an adjunct to
the knot spell: The candle is carved with the man’s name and
a command such as “Don’t get hard with anyone but me!” It is
then dressed with an oil like Stay With Me or Follow Me Boy
or Commanding (or all three). The knotted string is coiled
around its base while it is burned in seven segments over
seven days. The knot maybe burned with the candle or, as
some people work it, when the candle is done, the woman puts
the cord in her mojo bag as described above.
Another way to do the Blue Penis Candle Spell is to collect
the semen on seven occasions as described above, and to burn
one portion of the blue penis candle after each collection
of semen and knot-tying, keeping the string coiled around
the base of the candle when it is not required in the bed
for more semen collection. In the end, there will be seven
knots tied in the string and the blue penis candle will have
burned in seven portions, although not necessarily on seven
successive days. The string is then kept in a mojo bag, as
before, or burned with the candle.
In category (2) above, if the woman gets angry at the man
and wants to really do a number on him and ruin his nature,
she can use the knotted thread as part of a wicked
candle-burning job. She gets a Black Penis candle and warms
it up, then presses the string into the softened wax the
same way it went on the man. She anoints the candle with
Crossing Oil and
sprinkles it well with Goofer Dust (a
mixture of graveyard dust, red pepper, and herbs). Then
she lights both the wick and the string and lets them burn
to the bottom, knotted cord and all. That is a severely coercive love spell.
As i said at the outset, there are many variations of
“taking a man’s measure” or “tying his nature” — but those
are a few of the best-known.
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A RECONCILIATION RITUAL FOR ESTRANGED FRIENDS OR LOVERS
A couple of years ago i had a terrible falling out with a
friend-lover with whom i had been very close for more than 25 years. Despite several attempts on
both of our parts to reconcile, the unkind words that had been spoken and the
disastrous events that had transpired between us were impossible
for either of us to forgive. (Neither he nor i are the kind to forget, so
that was never an issue.) Each of us was right in our own
way, and each of us had a list of grievances against the other.
For two years we tried making formal statements of apology and
forgiveness and promising to never mention the
precipitating events again, but no matter what we vowed, one or
the other of us would eventually bring up issues of “betrayal” or
“lack of trust” and the relationship would unravel again. The
problem was that although we still WANTED to be friends, we just
didn’t know how.
To put a final end to the rift between us, we performed a simple little
ritual. We bought a red figurative candle from Bolivia that depicted a man
and a woman in 19th century clothes standing arm in arm with
wicks coming from their heads. We sat on the floor with the
candle between us and sprinkled
on each other and on the candle. Then we lit the
wicks (he lit mine and i lit his) and silently held hands while the
candle burned. This ritual worked wonders. Our relationship
became harmonious once again and we no longer fretted about those two “lost years” of
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Get a pair of Adam and Eve candles for you and your partner. Add a
smaller candle for each child already in the family. Name and bless
each candle, carving the name of the person on each.
Now fix the Eve candle with a “baby bump.” Form a small ball of white
wax and adhere it to the Eve candle’s belly area by dripping on some
more white wax to make her look pregnant. Dress all four candles with
Blessing Oil and herbs sacred to motherhood and health, such as
Motherwort, Angelica Powder, and Flax Seed.
Then draw a line arround the family of candles with Blessing sachet
powder. Speak aloud your prayer for a successful outcome to the
situation and light all four candles. Let them burn straight through.
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