How Smart Women Get the Men They Want
The first step is to use your female body language to capture the attention of the man YOU want, and to send him the special eye signal that you are waiting for him to approach.
Even if you are not presently interested in attracting a man — because you already have one — better read this. Learn what the other women may be doing to steal your man!
Smart women can start a conversation with strangers simply by eye contact. But it is a very special type of eye contact and men always fall for this type eye contact from women. Both men and women know that a lingering eye contact with a slight smile is an invitation for a closer connection.
Smart guys watch for such eye connections and understand that these are the woman’s invitation for him to approach her with an “opening line”.
Here Is the Secret to Picking Up the Man You Want
Find somewhere to sit where you can see all the men — and where they can see you. Spend the first few minutes getting organized, or so it seems. What you are really doing is ensuring that the men notice you. You do this by MOVING with your special female body language! This will stimulate the hunter instincts in men! Every man’s DNA is programmed as an ancient hunter, and he is especially alert to movements of the prey — and that is you!.
Women’s Moving Body Language Captures Men’s Attention
Men are much more visual than women and get a hormonal surge just by looking at a healthy woman — either alive or in a photo. That is why pornography prospers as men’s target market. So smart women use many visual body language female cues to attract attention by moving and preening their bodies.
Women send five times as many body language signals as men do in the same time period. Smart women just know what gets a man’s attention fastest and works at the deepest level!
Hair flipping, swishing, combing and general preening, plus a smile, are the main flirting feminine body language cues women use to get men’s attention. Other very effective feminine body language tactics are: walking with an exaggerated roll of hips, relaxed swinging arms, chest out, and head held high with a soft smile.
And additionally, plan ahead and let the men know you are a healthy woman and proud of it by showing a little skin on shoulders, upper arms, and back — and anywhere else socially acceptable. Men love to see a woman’s skin! Clean, clear, and smooth skin is a sign of good health, and that is high on men’s unconscious desired traits in a mate so he can produce healthy offspring. This mating game is serious business, so don’t leave anything to chance.
Women’s Flirting Eyes Body Language
Sociologists have carefully studied this ancient mating process where eyes are used to get a mate. They discovered these two parts of the process:
Making longer than usual eye contact and then breaking off that eye contact and look down. That is done in two definite steps!
The first step is to make eye contact to show specific interest. So your task is to catch his attention as he looks around the room and look directly into his eyes. When your eyes meet, smile slightly and hold the connection a little longer than normally done. Do it noticeably longer than when looking at other men and friends. This is definitely a very special gaze, and it packs a powerful body language message: “I have great interest in you.”
There are several reasons why he may not immediately respond to your first invitation:
- If he looks away quickly while you are holding your gaze, then he has little interest in you. (Maybe you remind him of his sister!)
- Most likely he is fearful of misreading your invitation and will be rejected. This is especially fearful because it would be public rejection in front of all the other men and women watching him try to score. Men’s greatest fear at this point is a loss of status as a “good hunter”.
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Don’t take his lack of action personally and give up. Check your body language to see if you are sending any negative cues, like hiding your breasts with crossed arms. This says, “You can’t see I’m a woman. Go away.” You need to have all your body language cues sending an inviting message, so be sure to face him directly and openly without your arms crossed over your breasts. This says, “See; I am a woman and not defensive!”
However, if he does hold a longer than normal eye contact with you, this shows interest in you and a desire for more contact. Good work!
Now do the second step:
While you have his attention, you should do the second part of this process: Break eye contact and look DOWN. Look down and fuss with your drink, inspect your nails, fluff your hair, straighten your clothing, or do anything looking down.
Looking down is an ancient mating signal indicating it is OK for him to approach you now. Looking DOWN indicates passiveness in humans and many animals. Looking down says, “I will not resist you! You may come closer.” If he is wise and experienced, he should read your message as, “I want you to approach me! I am waiting for you!”
In a few moments, you can casually look up to see if he is approaching or is still there watching you. If he repeatedly glances in your direction, then he has great interest in you but he needs to work up some courage to take the risk of approaching you. A smile from you at this point will greatly help him to get moving.
If you have done this ancient mating dance correctly so far, watch for him to approach you. This eye contact and looking down tactic has been well studied by sociologist researchers. This is the most common and successful mating tactic used in most western countries today, just as it was used by thousands of your smart women ancestors.
The Truth About Men Approaching Women
However, here is something women probably don’t understand is going on with guys at this point in the game. It takes a lot of aggressive courage for a guy to approach a new woman in a public place! Three emotionally powerful things are going on while this simple aggressive act guys are supposed to do bravely. Here are some of what is going on that makes most guy’s knees weak when approaching a woman to say his opening line:
In this approaching-a-woman action, the man gives a woman stranger the power to publicly judge him and announce her opinion to the world! She can indicate that he is looking “good and desirable”. Or she can reject him as the worst sleazeball, scumbag, and bag-of-crap in the Universe! And everyone there will see her decision of what he is. That is a scary and powerless feeling! Many guys won’t even play that game and just get drunk instead.
- The second thing that makes this approaching-a-woman action scary is that all the other guys are watching. If she rejects him, then all the guys will see him as a “failed hunter” and chuckle. That is instinctual hostility in men’s DNA that comes along with an unconscious desire to see him fail! That makes the odds better for their own success in getting a mate! This comes in men’s DNA from millions of years of competing for breeding rights with the females. This attitude is stupid in today’s world, but these instincts are ingrained deeply in the male old brain and come along with the testosterone. Some guys even turn it into a game of “dare” for their buddies so they can see them fail.
- The third thing going on is that if she rejects him in front of the other women there, he will be seen as a loser and unacceptable to all the other women, too. At his deepest level is the fear that he will never find a mate to produce his offspring with his DNA. This is like a foreseen death! At a conscious level, this is ridiculous, but at the DNA level it is a terrifyingly real fear. That fear comes from his old brain that is still wired from millions of years ago!
Make It Safe For Him to Approach You
The old brain (i.e. the limbic system) is what controls our bodily systems such as heart rate, perspiration, and breathing. Just be aware that as he approaches you his limbic system will be running wild because of his ancient ancestors’ experiences!
If you make his approach look acceptable to all the others there, he will be especially grateful and immediately like you! His ancient hunter instincts will be greatly stimulated. At his ancient deep limbic system level, he will feel like he just killed the biggest mastodon and saved the whole tribe from starvation!
Unconsciously, he will be eager to please you and say, “Thank you for not making me look like a failed hunter!” This is all going on at an unconscious level. At a conscious level, he is probably aware that everyone is watching him. He will do everything to show everyone there that you accepted him eagerly. Often this is done by offering you something like a drink, food, or cigarette so that you will reach out and accept it. That is a symbolic gesture indicating that you accepted him. At this moment, it is extremely important for him to show the world that he is not a failed hunter and a useless pile of mastodon crap. That is how he would feel if you rejected him now in front of everyone there.
But if he has gathered up his courage enough to approach you, then you are ready to click Step 2 below for your next exciting move.
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